If Anything Ever Happens to Me, It Was Officer Kassan Miles of Oklahoma

I need to say this out loud. If anything ever happens to me, it was police officer Kassan Miles of Oklahoma.

I have done everything in my power to protect myself and my children from further abuse. Yet, the legal system continues to fail us. The courts have made it crystal clear that they do not care about women and children. A man’s “rights” as a father outweigh the safety and well-being of the very children he abused, neglected, and then abandoned.

The Horror of Legal Injustice

The fact that a man can inflict harm, disappear for nearly a decade, and then use the legal system to force his way back into our lives is diabolical. I had nearly ten years of peace—nearly ten years to heal, to rebuild, to move forward. Now, I am forced to relive the trauma. I must watch my children’s home and stability be dismantled by a man who was never a father to them in the first place.

I am not okay. I will not be okay until his god calls him home. My children and I will not be safe until that day comes. Until then, I live with the constant fear of what’s next. This is no way to live.

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I Curse the Day We Met.

I curse the day we met—the day he illegally pulled me over under the guise of a traffic stop and sexually harassed me in uniform. My naïve, younger self thought it was cute. I didn’t see it for what it really was: a predator targeting his next victim.

The Manipulation of Trust

Like so many abusers, he knew exactly how to interlope his way into my life. He played the long, quiet game—waiting, watching, ingratiating himself into my world. When he struck, I wouldn’t see it coming.

Now, years later, this demonic, manipulative, miserable mutterer still haunts my life. The world sees him as a good, god-fearing man. I know him for what he is: a sexual deviant who thrives on power, control, and the ability to abuse young women while hiding behind a badge and a Bible.

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Abusers Play the Long Game. They Wait for Their Moment to Strike.

This man played the long, quiet game—waiting and watching. He tried to keep me trapped in a nightmare that I thought I had escaped.

Abusive men will go the distance just to get another chance at punishing the one who got away.

📌 I am the one who got the ck away.

📌 He is playing the system to get back in.

📌 And if he does, he will come back to finish the destruction he started.

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His History of Stalking & Harassment

This man has been terrorizing me for years:

🚔 He stalked me, calling my phone incessantly between 2–4 AM for years after I left him.

🚔 He drove past my homes constantly, always watching after I left.

🚔 He showed up at my job, at my church—anywhere I was.

🚔 He ingratiated himself into my family, and to this day, some of my own family members in Oklahoma are STILL silently supporting him. They still have him on Facebook and still see him as the victim.

This reality highlights why leaving an abuser is so isolating. So many times, your own family will side with him.

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Weaponizing the Courts Against Me

This man is now using the legal system to force his way back into my life. Through the courts, he demands access to intimate details of my life—including the names, addresses, and phone numbers of my exes.

This case should NOT even be in Oklahoma. But they refuse to let it go.

📌 Oklahoma makes it impossible for people who are pro se, like me, to fight fairly.

📌 They refuse to accept email filings.

📌 There is no e-filing system for everyone—everything must be done in person unless you have an attorney.

📌 The judge in charge of my case refuses to allow remote attendance, making it impossible for me to fight fairly and be heard.

This system is making it nearly impossible for me to protect my children from him.

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I had to hire an attorney, and she did nothing for me.

❌ She ignored most of my calls.

❌ She refused to listen to me.

❌ She tried to force me to compromise with this abuser.

And yet, I still owe her $2,000.

This legal battle has:

💰 Drained my savings.

💰 Cost me time, energy, and money researching my rights.

💰 Taken away from my children’s present & threatens their future.

I need help paying off that attorney. I need funds to rebuild an emergency fund for whatever comes next.

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I didn’t ask for this fight, but I refuse to lose.

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Stand Together Against Injustice

Joining the fight against abusive systems requires community support. Together, we can raise awareness and inspire change. Your voice matters. The injustices faced by many women and children must be addressed.

Let’s put an end to this cycle of abuse. Reforms are necessary in our legal systems to ensure safety for those who are most vulnerable.

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